Today marks the 30th day of my No Nelling Challenge, which I embarked upon to help me stop yelling at my kids. When I first got started, I thought that it would be possible to never yell but if it is possible, I’m not there yet. Luckily, I didn’t start over every time I slipped … Continue reading No Nelling No More!
Sometimes my ability to make decisions quickly complicates my life in unexpected ways. I think God made me this way because if I was in the habit of thinking things through, I’d never take any risks at all. When I decided to start a No Nelling challenge 19 days ago to stop yelling at my … Continue reading Make a Wish
I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t have a Nelling problem as much as a general piss off/bad attitude problem; a chronic curmudgeon-ness that sneaks its way into my days and plants its stinky butt on my couch. I’ve found that when I purposefully speak gently and lovingly, even if I don’t feel that … Continue reading The Audience That Matters
I took the kids to a park that has a manmade lake with ducks. There’s a big sign that says “Don’t Feed The Ducks” but it doesn’t say anything about the pigeons so I let the kids throw some crushed rice cakes to the birds. Within seconds, a huge swarm of pigeons surrounded my son, … Continue reading Scary Monsters and Super Creeps
Anyone who is in recovery knows that recognizing triggers is vital to staying in recovery and preventing relapse. I feel confident that I know what most of my drinking triggers are because I put a lot of effort into tracking them in the first months of sobriety. I’m taking the same approach with not yelling. … Continue reading Shoot, I did it again: Triggers
My daughter, who is almost 3, comically controls her universe. If I scold her, she stamps out my words by saying, "Stop talking! Stop talking!" If I give her a disapproving look, she responds by closing her eyes so that she can't see me. My son, on the other hand, is 4 ½ and developing … Continue reading Anger
Life is a balancing act. You have to balance work and home. Achieve balance. How many times have we heard that it’s all about balance? I don’t see it that way anymore. A lovely friend and I were talking one time about all the things we juggle with work and young children. She gave me … Continue reading Creating Harmony
Dear Santa, It’s been a long time since I’ve written you a letter. I’ve been thinking a lot about you and feeling a bit guilty. You see, I have two kids now and the threat of Santa’s naughty list comes in handy this time of year. I’m sure you hear that a lot. When I … Continue reading Dear Santa