Parenting with PTSD book release

Trigger Points Anthology has been re-released as Parenting with PTSD: the impact of childhood abuse on parenting and the Kindle version is available for free on Amazon today! The listed price is $0 so you don't need to subscribe to Kindle Unlimited to purchase it for free. Words cannot express how amazing this book is. … Continue reading Parenting with PTSD book release

Removing My (Breast) Armor

I purposely keep walking by mirrors so that I can see myself. When I’m sure no one is looking, I lift my shirt to make sure they’re real. I feel like a teenage girl whose boobies sprouted overnight; amazed, grateful, relieved. And to think that all it took was a little surgery to make me … Continue reading Removing My (Breast) Armor

A Small, Safe Room With a View

  When I was young, we lived off and on in a small adobe house with four rooms. It had water running to the sink in the kitchen but no bathroom. We used an outhouse in the backyard and kept a coffee can under the bed for nights when it was too cold to go … Continue reading A Small, Safe Room With a View

2 Conversations with a Kindergartener

Conversation #1: If you put that flower in the ground, it’ll never grow. Because it doesn’t have a root ball. Huh? Oranges? No, not a fruit ball. A root ball. That’s how plants get their nutrients from the soil. Nutrients are...well, it just won’t grow. Believe me. No, I’m not a hater. We can go to … Continue reading 2 Conversations with a Kindergartener

Middle Space

His hand in mine feels so small and perfect. We’re walking and he’s telling me about the strong evidence that Jar Jar Binks is really a Sith Lord and he’s promising to show me all the YouTube videos that prove it. I’m barely paying attention (huh? that goofy Gungan a Sith Lord?) because all I … Continue reading Middle Space

Big Girls Do Cry

My daughter watched me burst into tears yesterday. It started in the morning when I connected my new printer and couldn’t get it to work. It was incredibly frustrating but I didn’t despair. I still had options. After uninstalling and reinstalling the software on my laptop, I was able to print wirelessly. I did a little happy … Continue reading Big Girls Do Cry

What Happens Next (and an update of sorts to My Hard Truth)

I’ve spent the last year learning what it means to trust myself in dark places. I don’t mean darkness in the sense of depression or danger. More like learning to feel my way through the dark without automatically reaching over to turn on a light and asking myself what I need to learn in this … Continue reading What Happens Next (and an update of sorts to My Hard Truth)

Making Memories

We go to the beach with nothing more than a towel, a bottle of water and a bag for seashells. No phones, no camera. No umbrella, chairs, cooler or sunscreen. We did a full on beach day like that a couple of days before and within 2 hours, the kids were ready to leave. What … Continue reading Making Memories

Some Things My Kids Taught Me This Week

In our part of the country we’ve already been on summer vacation for a month so while some of you are just getting started, I’m already knee deep in “I’m bored.” And it’s been really hot here - like 110 degrees - so most days we’re just trying to not combust. My kids are 5 … Continue reading Some Things My Kids Taught Me This Week

Being Here

There’s a line I read in a Liane Moriarty book where the character is looking around a cafe and thinking, If only I were here, which is odd because she actually is there. It’s a feeling I instantly related to because I’ve often had a sense of being disconnected, as if I’m observing my life … Continue reading Being Here