Finally Clean

I had a two-day meltdown last month, which seems to happen every July. I don’t know what the trigger is exactly, other than that most of the abuse I can remember happened during the summer months. It used to bother me, not knowing why it was always July, and now I think that maybe it’s a … Continue reading Finally Clean

The Key Word is Redemption: A Conversation with Dr. Elizabeth Garrison

Every so often I read a book that sticks with me, makes me remember where I came from and reminds me of the resiliency of the human spirit. Wounds of the Father: A True Story of Child Abuse, Betrayal, and Redemption by Elizabeth Garrison is such a book. Elizabeth suffered unspeakable childhood abuse but what … Continue reading The Key Word is Redemption: A Conversation with Dr. Elizabeth Garrison

Free Range Survivor: How a Survivor of Abuse Doesn’t Freak the F Out Raising Kids

Dealing with sick kids for the last few weeks was exhausting but I did manage to read a very interesting book while I nursed my ungrateful, germy children back to health. It’s called Free-Range Kids: How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry) by Lenore Skenazy. Skenazy became the poster child for … Continue reading Free Range Survivor: How a Survivor of Abuse Doesn’t Freak the F Out Raising Kids

A Follow Up to The Secret Keepers

I don’t know if I can adequately thank everyone who shared The Secret Keepers on social media, reblogged or emailed it to their friends and loved ones. The post was shared hundreds of times and the response was amazing. You are my heroes and you very well may have helped to change someone’s life. If … Continue reading A Follow Up to The Secret Keepers

The Secret Keepers

  I’m going to do something I’ve never done before. I’m going to ask you to share this post. Reblog it, share it on Facebook, tweet it. Someone out there needs to hear this message today. Even if you think you don't know anyone who has been abused. Even if you don't read the entire … Continue reading The Secret Keepers

The Flashback

Trigger warning: This post is about sexual molestation. If this is a trigger for you, please take care of yourself. About 17 years ago, my husband and I were friends with a couple who had a teenage daughter. She was 14 and was pretty in the way that would someday become beautiful. I couldn’t help … Continue reading The Flashback

That Crazy Concept Called Forgiveness

Something amazing happened to me and it’s deep. Believe it or not, I actually write about more than assholes and Barbie dolls. (On a side note, I promised my cousin Barb that I’d start referring to 20-somethings as amaze-holes instead. It’s more fitting, don’t you think? I did something kind of crazy. I friended the … Continue reading That Crazy Concept Called Forgiveness

The No Nelling Challenge

I’m a yeller. There. I said it. I used to think it was because I’m half-Italian but now I think it’s because yelling is my default when I feel like I’m not being heard. I hate not being heard. In fact, when I think of all the times my husband and I have fought in … Continue reading The No Nelling Challenge