He wrote it down.

It’s hard to describe what I feel when I read a post like this. Sad, of course, but there’s so much more. I feel like God is lifting me up, I feel hope and I feel renewed sense of purpose. These cousins are amazingly brave and whether you’ve found your voice or are still trying to find it, I pray this post gives you wings.

In Others' Words...

Our intention was to dance on his grave.


My beautiful cousin, who I’d not seen in 35 years, and I set out to dance on our grandfather’s grave. Our first dilemma was, of course, song choice. You have to have the right song. We bandied a few song titles about, Alanis Morrisette was a front runner.


We drove to the town where he lived, and where he is buried. We drove to the town where we were abused. Driving down the picturesque New England roads, I felt a little faint. Mary felt a little barfy. We pulled into a store parking lot, and Mary spent some quality time behind a dumpster, hurling. It happens.

We weren’t entirely sure where the cemetery was, so we pulled into a police station to ask for directions. I said, jokingly, We should go in and file a police report. Mary said, What would…

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14 thoughts on “He wrote it down.

  1. Dear Karen, Thank you for posting “Before He Wrote it Down. ” I am Mary, Laura’s cousin. We are so humbled and thankful that our story, a story which is really nothing special in and of itself, has resonated and helped so many people. Sexual abuse, as you know, is everywhere- we need to put a stop to it! Laura and I are doing our part to do just that. Thank you for your help in putting it out there! Love, Mary


    1. You’re welcome Mary! I follow your blog as well and am so encouraged by the way you both speak your truth. It’s not an easy road to choose. I sometimes wonder why I write about this stuff and then I read a blog like yours and it becomes clear. Something positive needs to come out of this.


  2. Wow. This was such a beautiful, powerful read. Thank you, Karen. I shared it with a friend who was a victim of abuse. And I want to share with a few others who I know would be inspired and would hopefully find healing in her words. Hope you’ve been well. 🙂

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  3. I remember seeing this when it first came out, I think it was Freshly Pressed? It’s one of those posts that stays with you long after you read it. So glad you shared it…it deserves to be read. As their words deserved to be written down.

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      1. Definitely! I didn’t mean to imply you were slow (if it came out that way). You saw it when you needed to see it 🙂 And you sharing it, someone will see it that needs it. So I’d say your timing was perfect. ❤

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