My favorite time of year is in between Thanksgiving and Christmas. There’s something about Thanksgiving being over and the anticipation of Christmas that makes me want to take stock in what I have to be thankful for. These are just a few:
My grandma. I always said I never wanted to have kids but when I found myself at age 37 wondering what my life would look like at age 90, I pictured myself sitting at a table surrounded by children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. In this vision, I looked over all I had helped to create, soaked in the love and smiled. It was a “duh” moment because until then it never occurred to me that the only way to make that vision come true was to create a family.
My grandma is going to be 91 in January (grandpa died a year ago). This weekend our family gathered and I caught my grandma in the midst of a moment. She was seated at the table looking over all she had helped to create and I could tell she was soaking up the love. I asked her what she was thinking about. She smiled and said, “This.” She has lived my vision and I’m so grateful for all she’s done.
Clarity of boundaries. I have a great family. I really do. But (there’s always a but) the holidays seem to amplify everyone’s highs and lows. Sometimes that brings drama and sometimes comedy. I’m grateful that I can see where I stop and others begin. I don’t need to get wrapped up in their drama and I can still enjoy the comedy.
Wise friends (who happen to write books). When Jen Brunett (who wrote a guest post for me earlier this year) told me she was writing a book, I knew I would love it and I was right. In Finding Your Spirit: A Mom’s Guide to the Universe, Jen manages to tackle deep subjects without being too deep. There aren’t many people who can tackle meditation, Reiki, chakras and prayer without making it overly complicated. Reading her book is like having a conversation with your best girlfriend. I sometimes forget that spirituality shouldn’t be separate and distinct from daily life and Jen’s simple and practical tips have helped me stay connected to my spirit.
Friends who put into words what I can’t. In Silence and Kindness in the Wake of #Ferguson, Kelly Suellentrop was able to verbalize my desire to remain quiet about my opinions on Ferguson. Don’t mistake silence for apathy. I have friends with strong opinions on both sides of the issue and sometimes the best thing we can do is listen and hold space.
Kelly also falls into the category of wise friends who write books. I’m going to be reviewing her new children’s book next week and hosting a giveaway!
Watching Looney Tunes with my kids. I didn’t realize how much I love Bugs Bunny and his pals and how much those cartoons shaped my life until I started watching with my kids. I get such a kick out of watching their reactions to cartoons I’ve seen hundreds of times. I love telling them the story of how daddy and I only watched cartoons on Saturday mornings and only on one channel. That’s despicable.
Selfies. It’s the only way we can get a family portrait. (This one’s for you RoS)